History
One of the leading voices in helping couples define marriage - beyond boredom, beyond love, towards meaningful purpose - Matthew Hoelscher is a sex and relationship coach who helps couples find self-mastery by making marriage a living practice instead of just a legal agreement. Everyone assumes to know what marriage is, yet few actually define their commitments and agreements until after infidelity or worse a divorce lawyer. Matthew helps couples put everything on the table, create a vision, and define agreements around what is important and what is optional for each partner to deepen their self-actualization. Matthew brings together progressive ideas, personal experience, loving unconditional acceptance, and accredited coaching to create marriages of trust, love and growth for both the parents to be passed on to their children. He also maintains an extensive library of historic sexual teachings of Tantric, Taoist, Kabbalah and Christian Gnostic mystery schools.
Specialties
My specialty is helping couples through the three biggest challenges of marriage, as follows: * Communication, not arguing * Sex, intimacy and passion, not cheating, lying, and withholding * Rebuilding trust by defining the future, no longer worrying about all the little day-to-day details of life How? Because my wife and I experienced the exact same thing. We were married for 7 years; we had a year-old twin boys, and we argued all the time. There was no passion and no intimacy, and we no longer understood each other. We went to the best therapists in Miami. We both clearly stated at the beginning of our session, that we did not want to get divorced. We wanted a solution! We rehashed all our problems, told all our stories, explained our childhoods and left in no better shape than when we started. At the end of one session, our therapist advised us to get a divorce. I told him I wanted my money back and he refused! In-person meetings are hosted on my home office in West Kendall. I do offer